Finding out I was pregnant was not something I expected during my first year of University and was a huge thing to begin to get my head around, not only for me but my friends and family too. I soon became excited by the prospect of having a little girl to look after but was far from ready to do so. I bought books and spent hours on forums and baby websites reading stories of peoples experiences and reviews of the numerous baby products around. However, although living in the 21st century comes with its perks of having all this information available with just a click there are thousands of opinions each conflicting the other so it becomes a minefield. You want the best of the best for your baby and making sure you’ve got that isn’t as simple as it seems. You can’t just choose the most expensive item or the most popular each comes with pros and cons and good and bad reviews. So once finishing university for the year at the beginning of June I spent the next two months attempting to understand the complex language of babies and new mums in preparing myself for the birth of Amelia.
Pregnancy can be a completely different experience for any mum but for me it has just spurred such an interest into babies. My friends keep telling me I’m a baby guru as I seem to be able to answer any questions they have but the truth is I am no expert and I don’t think any new mum can be its just a learning experience that I am so keen to enjoy. My planner is now filled with recordings of any program that involves babies a personal favourite being The Midwives on BBC2; pregnancy, birth and babies are just absolutely fascinating and I think especially being a young mum it is important to know as much as you can although NOTHING can prepare you for motherhood.
I am very lucky to have an amazing group of close girl friends some I’ve known for more than ten years who spoiled me at a baby shower; so many presents and fun games made the pregnancy seem not so scary but something my friends could enjoy with me too. I can’t imagine any of us thought a year after leaving sixth form and parting ways to separate universities that we would be celebrating one of us becoming pregnant and having a baby but I’m so grateful to have had them to share the experience with so far and I really couldn’t have got through it without them.
Staying close with family around you is also so important something I learnt whilst being pregnant. They are the people that are there no matter what, something I won’t forget in a hurry. I have an older sister who is super thrilled to be an Aunty but who I have grown even closer with and secretly I just can’t wait for her to have a baby so I can be as supportive for her. Always been close with my mum and dad but nothing like what I am now; my mum works in a school so she had the summer holidays off so we had 6 weeks together in which to organise everything at home for Amelia and for my mum to be prepared to be a Grandma (Nanna in her case) before she turns 50!! My mum was my birthing partner another thing for her to get her head around which little did we know to begin with would mean she was to be in surgery (caesarean section) with me.
Basically discovering you’re going to have a baby is a surreal, crazy, enriching experience that for me has made me realise some really important things. What I thought I would be concerned with at age 19 has completely changed but I am now grateful to my friends and family and to have a beautiful baby girl as a result!!